The Definition Of Rejection In Love
Generally, rejection is what most of us can’t tolerate as humans with feeble hearts and minds. We seem to embrace solitude when we are rejected by friends, family or anywhere we think we belong.
Come to think of it, how do you feel when your works are rejected? How do you feel when your presence causes many people to grimace and split? You become inferior, you feel you aren’t of this world, even in the midst of throngs of crowds, you feel you are alone because no one seems to feel how you feel or think the way you think.
Now imagine you are rejected in love, how will you feel? You will feel worse, your heart will cry out loud that even your foes will hear and pity you. Do you know rejection has taken the lives of many poets even in this Nigeria and I am sure you know at least, two victims?
I witnessed a heart attack some time ago when a guy brought a flower to a lady, to woo her. This lady slapped him and told him they aren’t in the same class. Some people were laughing at the guy and I later heard the guy was hospitalised the second day.
You so much love them but they aren’t seeing the love.
You want your dreams to belong to them but they are busy with another.
You want your heart to connect to theirs but they haven’t even opened their xender to receive your love rather, they lambaste you with words, they tell you how wretched you are, they tell you what the devil will even hear and shake head for you in pity. They remind you of the mistakes you have made in the past and tell you they don’t want you to ruin their lives.
Well, all these are bound to happen because if they don’t, you will never understand why crayfish bend. Rejection is bad, especially when it’s coming from those you are older than and from love, but what can you do when you can’t help it.
I don’t know if you know that success is determined by failure.
Rejection in love pains a lot because it kills even faster than bullets. The scars and memories seem to be burried down in the deepest part of your heart, to remember daily and suffer in isolation and depression.
One thing you should know is, no matter how long or much you are rejected, there is someone who’s waiting for you somewhere, someone who will bring out the beauty in you and make it blossom. Don’t worry when you are rejected because the person rejecting you does not worth having you. They rejected you because they don’t know what you are made of. Don’t worry your head when you are rejected, what is meant for you won’t reject you.
Remember, Chinua Achebe’s work was rejected by many publishers but Heiman didn’t and today, we can’t stop discussing about that man.
There was a lady who is still searching for husband, going to Shiloh with a big Bible and over sized gown, unlike what she used to wear when she was still slaying. She rejected a guy because he dropped out of school. But today, the guy is a degree holder and pursuing his masters. What’s killing her most is that that same guy is married to her best friend with two kids, a boy and a girl. The lady is 32 now if I am not mistaken. The rejected stone has turned to be the corner stone.
Don’t feel too bad when you are rejected. Don’t feel depressed or left at the corner of the world because there is more to rejection;
It’s either to go and work on yourself the more or they aren’t meant to be in your life.
You are only rejected, not ejected from your career and purpose on earth. Find it and those that rejected you will come to serve
Till cross your path again-
I hang my pen 🖋
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